This weekend has been going well so far. I spent last night at a small Rocky Votolato show in a barn! If you don't know who he is, you should really check out his music. It's amazing.
The only dark cloud hovering over things is the wedding of longtime acquaintances. They sent the invitation just to me, no guest. Since my relationship is so new, and they have been busy with wedding planning, I hadn't had a chance to tell them about it or introduce them. However, I'd like CG with me because the wedding is over an hour away and I don't have a car. He does, so he could drive. Also, weddings are mushy and awkward. Since he's an important part of my life now, I'd like him with me to make it less miserable. Don't get me wrong, if this was a party I'd be totally fine going alone. I don't want to become one of those joined-at-the-hip couples, but I do want his support at an event that might be difficult for me. I'm shy, and it's hard trying to make small talk with people I don't know very well.
I wrote to my friends and asked nicely if I could bring him if there was room. I explained the situation and that he is someone I've known and dated before. I wanted them to understand the fact that he's not someone I picked up last week at a bar. They replied:
We intentionally did not include "plus 1s" because we didn't want people to just find a random date for the wedding, however we did not want to exclude a person's significant other because we understand that when you're in a serious long-term relationship, you choose to spend much of your time together so it's awkward to ditch them for a social event. So not having met him or heard of him before, we're not quite sure which definition he falls under...? If it's just about the ride, we could ask around to see if anyone is able to give you a ride.
This message sent me into a funk for a good hour. Why is she questioning my relationship? Why do I have to defend it? Who makes these rules about what qualifies as a serious LTR? I already told her this is someone who had been in my life for years, why do I have to tell her again? Weddings are pretty much the ONLY time where the significance of a relationship affects whether or not someone is welcome. He is important to me. That's all that should matter.
I really really hate weddings, but I do want to be there to support my friends getting married. I just wish they wouldn't make it so damn difficult!
Their response to your request is the RUDEST thing I have ever heard! They could have said, "I'm sorry, we're really tight on room," not something so judgmental sounding. I understand not wanting people to find a random date, but I wouldn't say that to a guest who's going out of her way to attend my special day.
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